Finding Your Passion.

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You know that time when you are about to sit for your final exams in high school and there’s this big decision you have to make on what you want to be for the rest of your life? Yeah, that time. That time when you are expected to choose between being a lawyer, or a writer, or a firefighter. And feeling that you have to do that and only that for the rest of your life.

Well, that moment is overrated. That choise you make, is overrated. And as much as you feel like you know what you want to do for the rest of your life, trust me, you don’t. And you probably won’t for a while. And that’s fine.

You see, this is how it works. When you get to college or university, you grow. Your mind expands. Your imagination broadens and so do your interests. And you find yourself in love with things you didn’t know you even liked. Like I have with photography, and blogging, and travel. Things that make me wake up at night wondering when morning will come so that I can get up and keep doing them.

Point is, don’t feel like you have to decide on what you want to spend the rest of your life doing when you are still a teenager. Dang, not even in your early twenties. Keep your mind open. Try new things. Find out what excites you. Ask yourself if you would still do it even if it was for free. You know, just because you enjoy it. Would you spend hours just to make sure that you give your best at whatever it is? Now that, that is your passion. And you shouldn’t give up on it. And if you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. It’s never too late. Be driven by your happiness. Not acceptance by society. Not easy ways out. And definitely not money. 🙂

Always be kind.

Dee.

20 Lessons Learnt in my 20s.


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I’m not even in my mid-20s yet but I feel like I’ve learnt so much already between the time I started university and now.

So, here we go. 20 things I’ve learnt in my 20s:

1. Your happiness should always be your first priority. When you’re happy, you are able to thrive in whatever circumstance that’s thrown your way.

2. Material things are never worth collecting: clothes, jewellery, electronics etc. They’re a waste of money and you’ll probably end up throwing them away after a few months. Instead, collect memories, take trips, go on that adventure you’ve always planned.

3. Actions speak louder than words. When people do things it’s not because they were forced to, it’s because they wanted to. Don’t try to read between the lines because those lines don’t even exist.

4. Personal health (both physical and mental) is very important. You are stuck in your body for the rest of your life so how about you clean up that “home” of yours and fill it with happy thoughts, healthy meals, good vibes…and remember to exercise every day.

5. Always follow your heart. No matter how absurd your idea is, just do it. Quit making excuses because chances are you’ll end up regretting pushing your ideas aside more than taking that leap of faith

6. Learn to enjoy your own company. Allow yourself time to meditate, discover yourself and learn what makes you different from everyone else.

7. Always be grateful for who you are and what you have. You may take it for granted but someone else has been praying for the same thing for years.

8. Never apologise for being yourself or having an opinion. Unless you’re just being an insensitive bully.

9. Embrace your flaws and learn to love yourself.

10. Don’t live in the past. That’s long gone and you can’t do a thing about it. Instead, use what you have to build the kind of future you won’t regret.

11. Have a purpose in life. Figure out what your passion is and work towards being the best at it. Nothing will ever work out if you don’t know what you want to begin with.

“Direction is much more important than pace. Many are going nowhere fast.” – Anonymous

12. Allow yourself to grow at your own pace. Make your own decisions, create your own path and make your own mistakes. And always stay focused.

“Without a goal you can’t score.” – Anonymous

13. It’s really none of your business how someone else choses to live their life. And never take anything personally. What someone else thinks should be the least of your worries.

14. Have an open mind. Say yes to new experiences and opportunities because that’s the only way you’re going to learn and grow.

15. It’s okay to separate yourself from those who don’t inspire you in any sort of way. Time is precious and it’s better to spend a few hours with one person who challenges you to be better than to spend a lifetime with people who dim your light.

16. Always take a moment before reacting to situations. Think about what you are about to say or do and whether or not it’s worth it.

17. Be humble, kind and treat people with respect. Just as much as you’d like to see them treat you.

18. Never ever try to blend in. And it’s not okay to be called “normal”. Normal is boring.

19. Everything happens for a reason and a season. So when it’s all said and done don’t sulk about it. Be grateful for the lessons you’ve learnt and move forward as a stronger person than you were. Plus there’s always greater things ahead. 🙂

20. And lastly, learn to appreciate those who matter the most to you in life. Spend time with them and make sure they know that they are loved.

Always be kind.

Dee.

Giving Back.

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This is a topic that’s really close to my heart. Growing up, my parents taught me how to be community-minded and how to care for those around me, especially those who are not capable of doing so themselves.

I remember spending a number of weekends with them at our local children’s home, where we’d keep the kids company, have conversations with them, play together, share stories, get them random presents etc. I also remember the bittersweet feeling I got at the end of those days. Happy that I got to spend my day with lovely innocent kids that were genuinely happy to see us. And sad because deep down I felt like I was saying goodbye to friends that I wanted to be around 24/7.

Over the years, the need to give back has built up inside me and although I haven’t done much to that cause, I intend to make it a daily thing.

Community development is far more fulfilling than personal achievements & wealth, and I believe we can all help out in one way or another. Obviously you won’t change the world in a day, but your effort to leave a place/person better than you found it/them is another step closer to achieving that.

Below, in random order, are ways in which you can give back to society and help improve the global community at large:

1. Children’s homes.

Volunteer at one. Donate food, clothes & books. Mentor a child. There’s so much you can do to cultivate the future generation.

2. Animal shelters & orphanages.

Give stray animals a home. Visit animal orphanages (they require entry fees that go into supporting and naturing the animals). I particularly love the David Sheldrick Wildlife Trust. They work towards fostering orphaned elephants in Kenya.

3. Local microfinancial groups.

Another favourite is Life Line Fashion, an East African brand employing local artisans, who, in turn, are able to feed and educate their children. Fighting poverty & boosting Third World economy? Check! Support local brands by buying their goods as well as letting others know about them.

4. Hunger and starvation.

While this may not be a permanent solution, food donation to disaster stricken areas is a start.

5. Education for all.

Buy books for school libraries. Provide reading & writing materials for schools with insufficient facilities. Or better yet, teach a subject or two in those schools! 🙂

6. Health care.

Donate blood. Volunteer in hospitals and organizations. Learn & teach first aid. Participate in charity and awareness events.

Do you have any more ways to give back to society? Let us know in the comments below.

Always be kind.

Dee.